Friday, January 08, 2010

NurtureShock is On Over 30 "Best Of" Lists!

NurtureShock has been included in over 30 "Best Of 2009" lists. We're very honored to have been recognized by each of them, and the sheer number is fantastic, but what is particularly thrilling to us is the variation in the lists, themselves.

For example, Barnes & Noble, San Francisco Chronicle and iTunes recognized us as being some of the Best in General Nonfiction, while Library Journal, AV Club, East Bay Express, and Nevada NPR had us in their lists of Best of Books, without reference to genre. has us at #1 in its "Best in Self Development" category.

Meanwhile, Discover magazine and Seed magazine said we were among the Best in Science Writing. This Week in Education and others include us in their lists of Best Education Books while Big Think has our race chapter as one of the year's Best Coverage in Politics/Social Issues.

And then Momma Data and others have tapped as us being the Best Parenting Book of the Year.

Amazing. Thank you so all very much.


Blogger jhoman said...

I may have missed this--but will you guys be touring in support of the book? When will you be coming to Philadelphia?


5:29 AM  
Blogger Ashley Merryman said...

We have a list of events at

Currently, we don't have any Philadelphia plans, but we are continuing to schedule events all the time.

10:43 AM  
Blogger Polly Palumbo, Ph.D. said...

Thanks so much for the mention of my evidence-based parenting blog! I've been waiting like a decade to read a book like yours! Thanks for all the nuance and making it so much fun to read.

7:38 AM  
Anonymous Adam Pedley said...

Hi Po and Ashley

I am suprised I hadn't heard of your book until now, though I do live in Australia and since it's not released here yet it may be the reason why.

I must say am I impressed by the ideas presented, though think that they might not be all the way there yet. (I read a sample intro so forgive me if I am interpreting this the wrong way or not gaining the complete picture).

You say that telling them they are smart will ruin them and that rewarding them for the effort will produce better results. I would actually have to say that telling them they are smart is building upon the belief they are smart.

I can however see that they would then only select scenarios that would ensure that their belief is kept is intact, which is why they would be unwilling to attempt something that might prove them wrong.

But then praising them for attempting something is only creating a praise junkie. Someone who would only work for the fact of being rewarded then be unmotivated if a reward is not being offered.

I believe the ultimate way would be for the child to love what they are doing and their desire to achieve it and not be ranked on intelligence, just the fact that they want to achieve something. The pursuit of parents to try and force intelligence on their children is a disappointing aspect of today's life and is only fueled by parents beliefs that intelligence is the key to success in the world.

Intelligence doesn't define who you are or what you can accomplish only your actions, beliefs and vision will do that.


5:42 AM  
Blogger Ashley Merryman said...

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4:51 PM  
Blogger Ashley Merryman said...

@Adam - I'm not sure what you read of our work, but I think if you read more of it, you will find that we are in agreement on much of it. We completely believe that the best situation is when kids are motivated to do something out of interest, rather than in praise-seeking.

The researchers' point about praising effort isn't to praise a lack of success - but to redirect kids' attention into how they do things, so that they can learn from every experience, rather than only win, but never learn from the win or a mistake.

We have a lot of material on praise, motivation, etc. in our Newsweek articles and our archived blog posts. I think that the Australian version of the book comes out soon, but you might want to look at some of those articles in the meantime.

4:56 PM  
Blogger Ashley Merryman said...

@Polly - Thank you for your support of our book!

4:56 PM  
Anonymous Adam Pedley said...

Thanks Ashley.

I will be sure to grab a copy of your book when it is out.

5:00 AM  
OpenID dufmanno said...

I need to tell you that your book has been the most informative, important purchase I've made in eleven years of buying help aids for raising kids.
I have three, and my third is the most difficult, but reading your writing actually helped me see everything bathed in new light.
Thank you both for helping me see hope at the end of a tunnel I had been stuck in for so long.
I see you will be in Washington DC this week to speak and promote the book. I will be there with bells on.
Thank you!

4:23 AM  
Anonymous Lara Jane | Ultimate Lifestyle Project said...

Brilliant - congratulations. Well deserved!


1:53 PM  

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